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Comment by Frank Spartalis on July 26, 2012 at 17:25

I hear you buddy, I know that you're not OK.
People! We're a wierd mob arn't we?
And family eh? Some are good and some are bad and there's not much we can do to change them.

What worked for me are the four R's: Riding, Running, Reading and wRiting.

I also like Rob's suggestion of chocolate.

Hang in there mate and hold your head up high. You've done your best and with the best intentions. You are a rare breed.

Comment by MARK FERGUSON (SPARTACUS) on July 26, 2012 at 16:56

To rub salt into the wound I've just found out that a family birthday is going on and I am not invited. I have no idea why?

Comment by Torsten Bunge on July 26, 2012 at 14:11

I know where you are coming from Mark, hang in there and focus on the positives. When times are dark family is what gets you through, especially wife & kids. During these times they are my rock.

Comment by Rob (Chewbacca) on July 26, 2012 at 12:46

@Mark....ride and chocolate will get you through....if this doesnt help then message me for a breakfast at Bocellis :)

Comment by Shav Bird on July 26, 2012 at 12:17

I'm sorry to hear this Mark. It's a dam shame when people whom you trust turn around and not give 2 Sh*** when you need help the most. I would concentrate on the positives you have at the moment like your family and close personal friends, and feel thankful for their support to get you thru. Try not to focus on the negatives of what others have done to you, and try and look at this situation as a learning experience. Look at it for what you can get out of it. Easier said than done, but I know it helps me put things into perspective and move on faster.

Comment by MARK FERGUSON (SPARTACUS) on July 26, 2012 at 12:07

I am hurting, there are people in my life who over many years I have given them love and support and have worked my arse off doing them personal favours only to have them turn their back on you for no apparent reason. My Wife and kids and some close friends are what get me through.
However things ARE NOT OK, I AM HURTING!!!!!!

Comment by Richard on July 9, 2012 at 0:15

Cats have good karma. Sure, they can be arrogant, demanding and independent, but if you model you life on the feline, you're doing well (just treat those dear to you with a little more tenderness). On the other hand, the humble woofer has all the wonderful characteristics of life (unquestioning love, boundless enthusiasm, optimism to a fault) but their inate insecurity is too susceptable to 'the black dog'. We can learn a lot from them both ... except how to do track stands.

Comment by Rob (Chewbacca) on July 8, 2012 at 21:53

We all run from the black dog at various times...but its a stray black cat that sleeps in my lounge room some times which has become a comfort for me....irony....

Comment by Paul on May 30, 2012 at 13:10

Hang in there guys.

I know it's easier said than done, but the daily commute this week is so much sun-shinier than last, and if you havent been out in it yet, I can highly recommend. The air is cool, the sun is out, the sound of the chain through the sprockets and the burn in the legs in these conditions is nothing short of divine. This week, you could mistake me for someone who didn't suffer from depression; par for the course, I'm coming back from a dark spot and the endorphins are doing a great job of helping. I'm coping far better this week than last; a quick stop into Haigh's yesterday reminded me that while there are no silver bullets for the black dog, chocolate bullets can sometimes help keep it leashed ;-)

It doesn't stop the "I should" and "I can't" and "I need to", but it gets me in a better frame of mind to question and counter these thought patterns.

And if all else fails, yes, Eurovision is good for a giggle, and watching the Giro - caught the climb up the Stelvio, inspiring. I'd love to join in the public ride up that one year! 

 

Comment by Rob (Chewbacca) on May 30, 2012 at 8:39

Sorry Paul S, saw your post earlier and didnt know what to say....been alot of thinking but nothing helpful comes to mind except use those supports you do have and have discovered over the years. Sometimes the depression can severely limit what we can do because energy levels get low especially this time of year when the weather isnt pleasant and the days are short...just to keep status quo is a huge effort. There are times the length of recovery to an acceptable level seems to take forever and friends and family loose their patience leaving a feeling a worthlessness

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